Why not?
I never grew out of the “why” phase of childhood. I simply changed it to “why not?”
Growing up in New Jersey, I heard “You can't do that” simply because I was a girl. My response was usually, “Why not?”
And I spent my share of time in the principal's office for pointing out, “That's not fair!”
Sports were part of my life from an early age. I swam competitively, but horses held a special fascination for me.
Whenever I'd saved enough money, I'd rent a horse and ride. Then I saw a horse performing single-tempe changes in dressage—flying changes of lead with every stride. I had no idea I was watching one of the most difficult movements in the sport. I only knew I wanted to feel what that was like.
As I learned on different horses, I began to recognize their individual capacities and personalities. Each had something different to offer.
And when I began taking lessons, I discovered something else I loved about equestrian sport: men and women compete on equal terms.
In the 1970s, I was paid 50–60% of what men earned for the same work. Why? Why not get paid the same? Well, in the 1980s, I found a way to do just that. I became a commodities broker.
Over the years, my work has taken me through corporate management, business ownership, training horses and riders, holistic health, speaking, and coaching.
Each experience brought new questions, new perspectives, and more tools to draw from.
And I'm still asking, “Why not?”
Learning to Look Beyond the Obvious
I grew up surrounded by different languages, cultures, beliefs, and expectations.
The years brought my father from Budapest and my grandmother through Ellis Island. There were at least four languages spoken near our home.
I also grew up during a time of enormous social change. Civil rights, women's rights, Vietnam, and the upheavals of the 1960s and 1970s were part of the world in which I came of age.
We thought some of those battles had been won for good.
We were wrong.
Those experiences taught me to pay attention to the rules people live by, who makes them, and whether they deserve to be accepted.
The Work Kept Evolving
My professional life has taken some interesting turns.
I worked in the corporate world, including upper management in group health insurance. I owned a manufacturing business. I trained horses and riders and rehabilitated injured horses.
My holistic health practice began with energy techniques, initially working with horses and companion animals. As the practice evolved, I expanded into supporting people's physical wellbeing through nutrition, body systems, and other holistic approaches.
Sharing what I learned became part of the work, through individual conversations, speaking, workshops, and coaching.
The more experience I gained, the more interested I became in understanding the individual rather than applying a standard answer.
What was happening? Why? What might we be overlooking?
And what else might be possible?
This Work Didn't Arrive as One Method. It Layered.
My education in history and political science taught me to think about systems.
My years in corporate health insurance gave me a different perspective on healthcare and the structures surrounding it.
Training horses and riders taught me to observe closely, recognize differences, and respond to the individual rather than rely on assumptions.
Holistic health deepened my understanding of the physical body and the connections among its systems.
Working with women added another dimension. I began paying closer attention to the stories and expectations that influence how we see ourselves and what we believe is possible.
Each experience added something.
The work continued to broaden. And sometimes the old descriptions simply stopped fitting.
From the Stories We Carry to Story Free Living
One question became increasingly important:
Who are you after removing all the definitions of who you've been told to be?
We absorb ideas about who we are, what we're capable of, what we should want, and how we're supposed to live.
Some come from family. Some from culture, education, relationships, and the times we live in.
And some become so familiar that we mistake them for ourselves.
Story Free Living grew from recognizing something different:
You are not the story. You are the space it moves through.
Living story-free means being present to where you are, rather than allowing an old story to decide what comes next.
From that presence, you can explore the next step. Does it fit? Is it right for you? Or is there another possibility you haven't considered?
The point is to live your life, not a story from your life.
Why Possiway™?
After 50 years of working with women in different ways, I've gathered many, many tools.
But the tool is never the point.
The person is.
Possiway ™ - the name I've given my approach to exploring together.
It draws on everything I've learned, while leaving room for what neither of us knows yet.
I bring my experience, curiosity, and tools. You bring your life, your perspective, and your own possibilities.
And together, we explore.
Why not?
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